Eros is our Reality




The asteroid "Eros"


I am drawn to this week's Evolutionary Love code:

 

“The fundamental movement of reality is the movement from loneliness to loving, from alienation to integration, from fragmentation to union. This is the movement of Eros. On the inside, Eros feels like pleasure. The failure of Eros feels like pain.” - Dr. Marc Gafni

 

I wrote an outrageous love letter this week about the idea of Eros:

The code this week is radical beyond radical.  To me, the dharma teaching of Marc Gafni and Kristina Kincaid's book Return to Eros means that fundamentally, reality does not "operate" or "exist" in what seems obvious to our senses and cultural teachings.  For me--as a figure and pawn of 10,000 years of agricultural civilization--in our fundamental relationship with what we see/touch, we wrongly perceive as subject/object orientation operating within give/take/receive exchanges.  The conventional paradigm starts as "Separate-Self" who exchanges material objects among other Separate-selves, and who take resources from an inert and meaningless cosmos.

But my interpretation of Eros as "the sexual modeling reality" means something radically different from the conventional Separate-Self paradigm. In the "Eros/co-creation" paradigm, the giver-taker-receiver exchanges dissolve.  I can only explain it as all unique selves give/receive simultaneously in a communion experience. 

My analogy is singing in a choir.  When I am singing in the group, I am simultaneously giving and receiving as sound transmutes into music. A mysterious new emergent song arises from the simultaneous contributions of each unique voice. The emergent music is greater than the sum of the individual voices. I think that is Eros operating.  We exchange simultaneously giving and receiving in what we do in the world.  We can choose to see it that way. 


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